Sex is important. I believe sex, when done with a loving partner, is the greatest path of pleasure and enlightenment afforded to us in this life. S when it’s a mind-blowing, bed-rattling orgasm you’re after, keeping it simple can be an absolutely key. Sure, wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way booty keeps your lust life exciting, but if the goal of the moment is to break pleasure records, you have to stick to the basics. “Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations,” explains sex educator Dorian Solot, coauthor of I (Heart) Female Orgasm. ”When you want to climax, the simplest positions are often also the best positions, and with a few modifications, you can make them even more orgasm inducing than they already are.”
1. The Slow Climb

You’ll never see missionary position the same way again. “While the girl is on her back, put a pillow under her butt, lift her hips, and bring her legs up and back toward her shoulders, as though she’s folding in half,” says Solot. This move allows him better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of you. Plus, it can stimulate her G-spot. But consider this a warm-up — you’re getting the zone primed for a more intense orgasm. Once her G-spot feels sufficiently stroked, put her legs down and have him get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. “He’s on top, but he lifts his pelvic bone upward, aligning it with her clitoris,” says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. “Then he rocks against the area until she peaks.” “The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings her to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes her over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone,” adds Brame. I like to do this pose, it works well.
2. Down Dog
This is not your yoga posture. While you’ve probably tried an all-fours pose before (at least, we hope you have!). But while mentally the doggie-style position has great bad-girl benefits, in order to make it actually orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. “Lie her on the stomach, lifting her butt slightly so he can enter her,” suggests Solot. “Your partner can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of her.” Not only does this facedown configuration provide increased friction as he moves in and out, but she can gently grind her clitoral area against the bed as well.3. The Criss-Cross

With all the twisting and bending that goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like a cardio workout than a pleasurefest. That’s why it’s important to have at least one relaxed orgasm — inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this: “While she’s on her back, he should lie on his side, turned toward her,” explains Solot. “Swing both legs over his hips and thighs, making a bridge over them.” Then, just let him gently thrust into her. If it takes her a while to climax, this pose is ideal. “It’s not very aerobic, so the sex can go on for a long time without either of you tiring out,” says Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center and author of The Passion Prescription. ”When she want to climax, it’s easy to touch herself or he can use his top hand to stimulate her.”4. The Giddy-Up

Girl-on-top tends to be a go-to for achieving orgasm…and for good reason! “It allows her to dictate the pace and depth of thrusting, but mainly, she has easy access to her clitoris,” says Berman. “She can touch her C-spot, have him touch it, or rub against his pubic bone to achieve orgasm.” But she can up the ante by literally pulling a 180. Twist around so she’s pointed toward his feet in reverse cowgirl position. “Instead of straddling him, put her legs together, feet flat between his legs,” suggests Brame. The benefits of this are twofold: With her legs together, the fit is even tighter, making the sensations more intense. Plus, there’s increased G-spot stimulation, which combined with her own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive orgasm.5. Torrid Tabletop

In some cases, a simple change of scenery can aid in achieving orgasm. For this move, you’ll need a kitchen table — one that comes to the man’s waist. “Lie her down on the table with her butt near the edge,” suggests Solot. “He enters her while standing between her legs, holding on to her hips for leverage.” She can rest her feet on his shoulders or on the edge of the table. Because he’s standing, his hands are free to stroke her body,” says Brame. “And he’s at a perpendicular angle, rather than right on top of her, making it easier for him to touch the clitoris, unobstructed.” To up her odds of orgasming, make sure she clenches and lifts up her butt, which will increase the pelvic tension and blood flow to the area.6. Lusty Lap Dance

This one’s always a fan favorite — he sits and she straddle him so you’re face-to-face. “You have a lot of control over the speed, angle, and motion because you can use your arms and legs to help you maneuver,” says Berman. “Rather than just moving up and down, which can be especially tiring for her, sway forward and back, allowing her to rub the clitoral area against him.” In addition to the freedom of movement, there are a few other benefits to this booty move. “If she lean back just a little bit, she’ll get greater G-spot stimulation and he’ll be able to play with her clitoris,” Brame explains. Plus, her breasts will be perfectly aligned with his mouth, adding a whole other layer to the sexual experience.7. The Spoon

Obviously, you know emotional attachment is essential to achieving orgasm with your partner. And there’s no configuration that’s more snuggly than the spoon. To assume the position, simply lie on your side, the guy scooted up behind the girl. Rather than move in and out, he should stay inside her, gently thrusting against the front wall of her vagina. “Aside from fulfilling her/his cuddly needs, it provides consistent stimulation to her G-spot, which is key for achieving orgasm from intercourse,” Berman points out. “Since he may not be able to penetrate her as deeply though, guide his hand around her hot spot.” And just think: Once you’ve both climaxed, you’ll be in perfect postcoital position as well.

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